Despite progress in rejecting gender norms, many still link key friendship traits—like compassion and open communication—to women. Nearly half of women share feelings with friends for support, while less than a third of men do.
Strong friendships reduce stress and improve mental and physical health. Women have historically tapped into these benefits more, but men can too. The "male friendship recession" shows more men reporting fewer, lower-quality friendships.
“Sisterhood and community are why women prioritize friendships,” says Amber Petrozziello, LMHC. “Spending time with friends releases serotonin and oxytocin, reducing loneliness.” While women generally have higher oxytocin levels, men also benefit from close connections.
Why Men Struggle with Friendships
Toxic masculinity and aversion to platonic intimacy hinder men from forming deep friendships. Emotional openness is vital for meaningful connections. “People with strong relationships are better off mentally and physically,” says Christopher Hansen, PhD. “Close relationships make people feel supported and heard.”
The "Male Friendship Recession"
In 1990, only 3% of men reported having no close friends. Today, that number is 15%, and among single men without romantic relationships, it’s 20%.
“Men have always had intimate relationships, but it wasn’t socially acceptable to express them,” Hansen explains. Though societal views are shifting, progress continues. Men are less likely to seek mental health support due to stigma, but younger generations are embracing deeper connections.
Practical Tips for Building Friendships
1. Bond Over Shared Activities
Find hobbies or interests to create shared experiences—like walks, games, or workout classes. "Physical activities lower defenses and build connections," says Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD.
2. Be Open and Vulnerable
Show friends it’s safe to be open by sharing your experiences. Start small with work or dating stories to encourage others to reciprocate.
3. Side-by-Side Activities
Men often bond through parallel activities like watching sports. These settings feel less intense and allow deeper conversations to develop naturally.
Friendship Benefits Everyone
Open communication isn’t just for women—it’s essential for everyone. Men can have fulfilling relationships, even if they approach them differently.
Friendships are crucial for mental health. By embracing communication and vulnerability, men can enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of strong friendships.
Source: Very Well Mind